Monday, March 24, 2014

#CHSFW

And that's a wrap! 

The eighth annual Charleston Fashion Week wrapped up Saturday night with not one, but TWO emerging designers winning $5,000 checks and invaluable mentorship experience with their lines. 

Congratulations to Anna Toth and Leah Plante & Becky Plante

I absolutely loved Kaitlyn Machos' glamorous collection, and have to admit being a little sad not to see her come out with the crown--but know she will be doing big things. Remember the name!

While it's hard to nail down my favorite parts of last week, I can definitely pinpoint a few. 

+ Bargaining with Hunter Bell regarding how I could get her jumpsuit before ShopBop.
+ Meeting Fern Mallis, creator of NY Fashion Week.
 + Running into (again and again) the stunning as usual Miss South Carolina, Christina Zapolski

The aforementioned coincidentally served on the judges panel for the Emerging Designer Competition alongside featured designers Brandon Sun, Timo Weiland, and Antonio Azzuolo. 

My role was to assist with event logistics and production. In particular, working the box office registration tent, overseeing the Sponsorship and Emerging Designer Check-In, and serving as the VIP personal liaison for title sponsor's CEO.






Thanks to the fabulous Naomi Russell, Production Director and Director of Special Events for Charleston Magazine, for seamlessly pulling together a fabulous #CHSFW. 

To read more on the outcome of the Emerging Designer Competition and Charleston Fashion Week read here

XX,




Thursday, March 20, 2014

Having The Same Hours in a Day as Beyonce


Let me preface this post by saying I love being busy. I live for a full schedule, lined with my signature cursive ribbon script. 

This week, however, is truly bananas. 

Now, I'm not planning on ranting about the fact that I happened to tweet #comfortfood in reference to coffee yesterday, but that might give you an inclination as to my current state of being. 


I am definitely not the first, nor will I be the last college girl to juggle Vice President of her sorority, two internships, an 18-credit course load, LTBing at Pure Barre, serving on the boards of three other campus organizations, and completing 300 hours of community service a year in the meantime. I might, however, be the only person crazy enough to do the aforementioned while working as a production assistant for Charleston Fashion Week. 

In the heat of the moment, it is completely acceptable to shut down when realizing this doesn't leave any hours for eating/sleeping, etc. etc. However, times like this remind me that success is a choice. When feeling overwhelmed earlier this week, I not-so-eloquently pouted to my mama, "I don't need someone to tell me how great I am- I need someone to help me make a plan". 

Isn't it kind of true? 

I love a sincere compliment just as much as the next girl, but there gets to a point where I'd rather have someone just get it, not feel sorry for me, and tell me I chose this life. 

So next time you find yourself utterly stressed staring at overflowing checklists, take a deep breath-- remember who you are and where you're going. 

"I don't like to gamble, but if there's one thing I'm willing to bet on, it's myself." - Beyonce

XX,

Wednesday, March 12, 2014

The Secret to Having it All


The Dilemma

A conversation constantly sparking debate between women is the concept of "having it all". For the 20-somethings it's often boiled down to having the perfect boyfriend, perfect job, and perfect body. A plethora of research and opinions have examined the dichotomy between succeeding in one's professional life and "succeeding" in one's personal life. In the first chapter of Sheryl Sandberg's, "Lean In", she boils down the question of why highly talented women choose to leave careers and become homemakers. One approach to this is that within our society lies a not-so-discreet double standard which makes ambition perceived as a negative quality in a woman, when it would be seen as nothing less than a positive for a man. 

While I don't claim to know much about the aforementioned raising a family of four or being CEO of a fortune 500 company, I do know a bit about my generation. 

When I was little, my favorite games to play were "house" and "boss". I would plop my Grandfather's name plate down on my clean white desk, add some pieces of paper and crayons, my Dad's old black '99 Samsung, and tell my sister she was my secretary.

 I did all of this with an American girl doll baby on my lap. 

It never occurred to me that this wasn't normal. Whether I attribute this to my millennial naivety or good parenting I haven't quite figured out. But one thing is for sure, millennials are known for multi-tasking. Corporate America calls us lazy; I call it adaptation. The world is changing and we're keeping up, especially the girls.

We've all heard the mind blowing statistics that can happen when you educate girls and women and what that in turn can do for the economy. The world needs women, and it needs us in a plethora of roles. So adapt I say. No, having it all isn't easy, but it's possible. And if a man can't handle you making more than him, roll your eyes and turn on those pretty little snakeskin Louboutins you bought yourself, and head in the opposite direction. 

It's easy to feel overwhelmed when you look at the choices and hear the stories of women who have to make "the" choice in their early to mid twenties.. 

But why does it have to be one?

Of the 28 women who direct Fortune 500 companies, only one has never been married. Doesn't really seem as though the most powerful women had to pick one

So why should you? 

Work smarter, not harder. 

I think part of the "big secret" to having it all is accepting and using the low's to your advantage. So much of the transition between 18-25 deals with an overwhelming amount of loneliness. Perpetuated by #fomo and digital media overload, we're often left perplexed when given the gift that is alone time. 

With an Instagram feed overflowing with edited images of #its5oclocksomewhere and #abroadprobz it's hard not to feel a little left out at times. In Barcelona I constantly felt pushed to go out every night for the sheer sake that I would miss out if I didn't.

While I can't say I regret the nights I stayed home FaceTiming my family and laughing till my cheeks burned, it did make me question myself and my priorities. 



So decide. What is "having it all" to you? If you're a millenial like me, you've been given the encouragement your entire life that you can do anything you set your mind to. Be whatever you want to be. Sure, I'd love my closet to be filled with each and every pair of Valentino pumps than line the browser of my Pinterest board. And keys to a C-Class in my stocking would've be nice. But just because they aren't there right now, doesn't mean I don't have it all.

 So maybe it's not about having it all, all at the same time. Maybe it's about having a little more than you need, a little more than you might want, and taking a step back. 

If you're reading this my guess is you're on a Macbook, in a heated room, probably checking your iPhone simultaneously. Take a moment to realize you're among the most privileged people on this planet.

Maybe then you'll look around and realize that the secret to having it all, is realizing you already do. 



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